Was it planned?

When one of my close friends told me that she was pregnant, "Was it planned?" was most definitely one of the first questions that I asked. And, now that we have been announcing our pregnancy for some weeks, I have found that this question is overwhelmingly one of the most asked. At first, I did not mind it, but as I am asked it more and more, I am frustrated with the question. I know that our situation is different than many others, but, really, what does it matter if it was planned or not - we are still having a baby and we are still excited about it! It seems so judgmental and, truthfully, is a very personal question.

So, to answer the question for what I know will not be the last time - YES! It was planned. We feel very fortunate that our plan came to fruition. And to explain our rationale - I am done with rotations at the end of Feburary and "Speck" (Matt's nickname for the baby) is due at the end of March. I have March, April, May, and June off and start residency in July. When we started to think about this gift of time, we realized that never again will I have this amount of time to spend at home with a baby.

To my friend who I asked "was is planned" - I apologize. : )